Before I had a baby, was pregnant, or got married, I had a lot of interesting things going on in my life...I had so much to talk about, and I always had some place to go or someone to meet. I was passionate about my job, my family and my friends. When I was 28 I started dating my husband. We are both social butterflies and we went out all the time and had a great time, dancing, traveling, hanging out with friends, playing football and so much more....
Then it happened....I got engaged and that is when it started, the only thing people brought up and that I seemed to talk about was wedding related topics. Did you find dress? Where is the wedding? When is the bridal shower? Is there a theme? What kind of cake? Who are your bridesmaids? For almost 2 years my life was all about my wedding and all wedding events leading up to the wedding. I annoyed myself with the inability to talk about anything else. On the up side I still had my job which I loved and I still spent a lot of time with my friends, family and my fiancé. So from time to time I did have other things to talk about..
The wedding was over everything went back to normal for about 3 months. Then I got pregnant and it happened again, the only thing on my mind and the minds of others was my growing belly...and the conversations became, it's is a girl or boy? Are you planning a natural childbirth? What does it feel like when he kicks? Will you be moving from your fabulous upper west side apartment that has a backyard for something with more space?, and of course, can I see the ultrasound pictures? Mind you I didn't care about all the questions, it was the fact that I didn't seem to having anything else to talk about either....but wait it gets worse...
Finally on August 30th 2011 at 2:31am my son was born. I was so excited that I was finally a mother and I had a whole year off from work to enjoy with him. When I was getting married and pregnant I still worked and went out regularly so I had experiences and life to laugh and talk about with friends. Now, it's all
baby talk, I literally have nothing else to talk about.
Unless you want to hear about how his diaper exploded at 5 Napkin Burger and how I was tempted to bath him in the bathroom sink, or how I was so excited that he held his head up for a full 7 minutes without crying, or about the time I had to breastfeed him while getting a pelvic exam because he was crying, then come on over and bring a large bottle of your favorite wine...lol
I have become the boring stay at home mom that only talks about her kid, yes I've become
that woman. Not only is it the only topic I have to talk about, but I'm so cheerful about it. I think when I get started I'm just so happy to be talking to another adult that I don't notice the glazed over expression on their face. It turns out that other stay home moms are the only other people that don't mind all this baby talk. Mainly because they are in the same boat and also have nothing else to talk about. It's great when I find another mother who has a child around the same age to hang out with.
I have worked very hard to schedule in adult time, not just with my husband but with other people. I think people find it so funny how excited I get when I have a couple of hours without the baby. A couple of hours without drool, or singing, or diaper changes; it's very exciting. My advice to all the men and women out there who stay home with there kids all day, take classes, read or listen to books, magazines or watch the news when you can because you need things to talk about when you're with all the adults out there who don't have kids...good luck. :-)
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Yesterday, after a very rigorous play time at Gymboree I came home with my son and he napped for 3 glorious hours. During the first hour or so of his nap I sat and got my social network on. I checked my Facebook, liked some statuses, commented on pictures. I updated my Google+ picture and added a video. I checked and replied to a couple of emails. I also logged onto my twitter account and posted a tweet. I tweeted "my munchkin is taking a nice long nap.. it gives me time to be on the computer when I really should be doing dishes..." I felt compelled to tweet this because as I was getting my social network on I looked up at the dishes a couple of times thinking to myself that maybe I should take advantage of this time to do the dishes. As this thought went through my head for like the 3rd or 4th time someone responded to my tweet, someone named Amanda tweeted back "Nothing wrong with that :)" At that moment I wanted to yell (but I didn't because I would have woke up my son) "that's right there is nothing wrong with that!!!!" 
